Polyamory means having, or being open to having, more than one romantic relationship with the knowledge and consent of everyone involved. The word combines the ideas of many and love. Polyamory is one form of ethical non-monogamy, but ENM includes other relationship structures too.
How polyamory differs from an open relationship
An open relationship often describes a partnership that allows some outside romantic or sexual connections. Polyamory usually puts more emphasis on the possibility of multiple loving or committed relationships. The terms can overlap, and different people use them differently.
The most accurate answer is always the agreement between the people involved.
Common polyamory terms
New relationship energy
New relationship energy describes the excitement and intensity that can accompany a new connection. It can be helpful to recognise it so existing commitments and practical responsibilities are not forgotten.
Metamour
A metamour is a partner’s other partner. Metamours may know each other closely, interact occasionally, or keep separate lives.
Hierarchical and non-hierarchical
Some people organise relationships with primary or nesting commitments. Others prefer not to rank relationships. Neither approach is automatically better; clarity and consent are what matter.
Parallel and kitchen-table polyamory
Parallel polyamory generally means partners keep relationships more separate. Kitchen-table polyamory describes a more connected style where people may be comfortable spending time together. These are descriptions, not rules.
Starting with respect
Do not assume that someone who is polyamorous wants the same type of relationship as you. Ask what they are looking for, what agreements exist, and what information should be shared. Be honest about your own availability and boundaries.
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